Anwinli and Ohis Ojeikere popularly known as The Winlos share the love story of how they met. Read Mr. Ohis Ojeikere’s detailed story below:
The Winlos: She was not my spec and I was not her spec but we eventually got married?
She came into the church and was going through counselling with the pastor as a first-timer. So the pastor sent for me because, at the time in church, I was referred to as minister for women affairs because I had a way of making ladies who came to the church then stay back. As usual, pastor called me and handed over my wife Anwinli to me, that’s how we became friends. There was no attachment, we were just friends for about two years because she wasn’t my type and I wasn’t her type as well. Basically, we were just working together in various departments in the church. That’s how we met.
As I said before, she wasn’t really my spec because I actually wanted a chubby lady. (Laughs). At the time I only had a physical perspective of what marriage was but then I was meeting many friends who had those physical looks I wanted but they were not just it for me. It was then I knew that marriage is more than those physical attributes although they are necessary, what is important is connection.
Later on, I realised I had connection with her but I did not notice it because she was not my spec. Then for the first time, I thought of her and realised she is a good girl, she is everything I need in a wife, so what was wrong with me and why did I keep looking for a chubby lady? As I made up my mind that I was going to ask her out, immediately she called me and said she was about to say yes to a marriage proposal. She said the guy was okay but did not share the same values with her so I told her to pray about it. I asked her for the guy’s name telling her that I wanted to pray about it but I went to search for him on Facebook and I discovered that this guy was rich and successful while I was squatting in my pastor’s house then. A few days after, she later told me she said no to the proposal.
I then proposed to her and assured her that though I didn’t have much if she would follow me as I follow Christ, we would be married. She laughed when I said that but I was sweating. (Laughs). We started dating and a year and a half after, we got married in 2013. Read also, Ideal qualities to look for in a marriage partner-the winlos
The Place of Counseling and Mentoring in Marriage – The Winlos
Anwinli Ojeikere: There have been ups and downs, I can’t tell you that it has been all smooth. Our initial year had a lot of disagreements; I will say that came from my end because I was stubborn and not ready to be teachable due to my background. But we have gone better and making tremendous progress.
Ohis Ojeikere: We are from different backgrounds, my wife came from a broken home and she saw the way her father treated her mother, so she had the mentality that when she got married no man will boss over her. That affected us at first but with time, series of counselling, prayers and mentoring, we are better today. Read also, A good marriage is not automatic – The Winlos
I thought my wife was a witch! – Ohis Ojeikere (The Winlos)
Anwinli and Ohis Ojeikere popularly known as The Winlos share a trying moment in their marriage. Moment when Mr. Ohis thought he had married a witch. The couple who met and became friends while acting and writing drama in their church drama group, emphasize through this article the need for proper counseling and mentorship in marriage. Read below:
When I married my wife, I had that issue, I thought she was a WITCH. On a very serious note, I thought she was a witch. I thought I made a mistake. Because we married in Church and our Personalities were very different.
For Example, I love Long and Loud Prayers at night. So when I Start praying, She’ll tap Me and say ” My brother in the Lord, Can’t we just sleep? Do you have to pray tonight? And I looked at her and say ”This Lady must be possessed ”
Why are you totally against Prayers?
But we came to realise that our socialisation process was really different. She came from Catholic Background, so they have this Straight forward kind of Prayers, but I came from Pentecostal and you should know that the violent should take it by force. So that’s why I pray long and loud.
So we got married and we were having issues. We had to take it to our counselor to help us out. I was meant to understand that wife Believes in Prayers but she doesn’t believe in HOW I PRAY. So the difference is there and clear. She’s adjusting and I am also adjusting, to make the marriage EASIER, SWEETER AND ENJOYABLE.
You have the Responsibility to make your marriage WORK.
You need a COUNSELOR.
You need SINCERITY.