In this message, Apostle Johnson Suleman shares how to confirm your marital choice. Read the article below.
Understand the mystery of choice. Your choice determines your chance. Your choice will either make you or destroy you. Your choice determines what you want to become in life. When you are making choice martially, you should not be too conscious of physical attributes.
There are some ladies who say “I want a very tall man” and they end up getting ‘tall trouble’. I want a man who is not too fat but it’s a little bit chubby and they get an affliction who is not too fat but a little bit chubby. I want a lady who has this kind of curves or shape. Those are physical attributes. Those are not what you consider when you are choosing. A woman may be figure eight today and when she gives birth to one, two, three children she becomes like when two or three are gathered.
When you are making choice you check eternal traits. Traits that helps destiny. Traits that will stand the test of time. If you are not a patient person, you need somebody that is patient. If you are always traveling you need someone who can release you for God, you will need someone who has a mother’s heart.
Character is a deposit. It is an investment. Check character! After which, you can then check up with these three important factors to confirm your marital choice.
How to confirm your marital choice?
- Listen to your parents
- Listen to your pastor
- Check your peace of mind
- Parents: I grew up to think that if you want to marry anybody, whether your parent like it or not, go ahead. But after some experiences in life I discover that not all parents are wrong. A lot of us have disregarded our parents. I have discovered that seven out of every ten relationships that are broken, the parents always spoke against it. After you have laid down all the attributes that you want, to confirm your choice consider your parent.
- Pastor: There are some brothers and sisters who have Nicodemus kind of anointing, doing everything by night. Your pastor must stand as a witness so that when the young man is trying to mess up in the future, your pastor is there to address it. Don’t always look for prophecies that will please you in relationships. One of the reasons your pastor should know about your relationship is that your pastors have certain experiences so if they see some happenings they can relate it to what has happened in the past.
- Peace: If you do not have peace, back out. Anything that makes you restless God is not involved Heb. 4:9 says God is a God that gives us rest. Any relationship that you are always thinking and losing your weight on, any relationship that is putting you under pressure and you are loosing your peace, Please step out of it! You quarrel today and settle and then you quarrel again, that’s a signal. You fight every two weeks and you are still struggling with that relationship. I say, Stop!